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life during a pandemic

The Distancing Diaries: Into the second month now

April 18, 2020

Day 31: This feels like the turning of a page. Like I should start with Month 2, Day 1, but also there’s something about the tallying of the days that I don’t want to forget. How high will this number go? I don’t know.

I went to bed early last night which meant I was up before the alarm went off. It had rained hard overnight and is still raining as I write this almost six hours later. We’re in for a soggy day. I started reading the library book that arrived on my Kindle last night, Olive, Again, the follow-up to Olive Kitteridge, which was an amazing read. I finally got out of bed when I decided I needed coffee and breakfast. While the coffee brewed, I took my blood pressure. It’s still higher than I would like. I hope I have enough data soon to send to my doctor and go back on my medication, even if it’s a lower dose.

I also woke to a message on Facebook that our friends in Kenya want to video call with us, so that’s a fun surprise. I hope we find a way to make that happen.

I put together a blog from the last five days while I ate breakfast and the kids played video games. They’re working hard on a Lego Star Wars battle. As the 8 o’clock hour approached, I kept reminding them of the need to meet to talk about our day. It’s not a school day today, but I still wanted them to do some things on their checklist. They started playing with their dolls and animals and I worked on dishes from our Easter feast while listening to Andrew Peterson read more of On the Edge of the Dark Sea of Darkness. I love this story so much, and it’s fun to hear the author read it.

When I finished with dishes, I put some laundry in. Phil wrangled the garbage to the curb in the pouring rain and we barely got it out in time for it to be picked up. They’re coming earlier and earlier these days. As is the mail. Speaking of which, I received a note on a coloring page from a friend today. It made me smile.

My son had an appointment with his counselor at 10 and I had some time before that so I researched the books my daughter needs for a book club later in the month, and we made a purchase from a local book store and got her signed up for the class.

Then my son and I settled in for his telehealth appointment. It’s such a blessing to be able to talk to someone about life and his behaviors, which aren’t destructive or damaging but some of which aren’t the healthiest they could be. We had a nice chat, and I was almost moved to tears because mental health care workers are bearing a burden as well. Can you imagine trying to take care of yourself mentally during a pandemic while needing to take care of others? I thanked her and asked her to take care of herself.

Phil left for work and the rest of us fought over lunch after my son’s appointment was over. Everyone wanted the delicious leftovers from Easter and there weren’t exactly enough to go around. We made it work. The kids watched a UK version of Wipeout with their lunch. It’s so hard to get motivated to do much of anything when it’s raining all day. I’m not even sure what I’m going to do for my workout.

The answer: burpees! Okay, so they were modified burpees but they were still burpees! I did some high-knee walking and wandering around my kitchen for a warm-up, then I did a bunch of sets of hands elevated burpees. Oh. Em. Gee. I’m going to be hurting tomorrow. The rain stopped for a bit so I could take a cool-down walk outside. The storms had knocked a lot of branches out of the trees.

Then I decided to sit outside and read for a bit while the rain was in a lull. The kids were folding clothes and watching YouTube but they’d been at it for a while so I asked them to stop. Daughter started doing Just Dance for her active time while son wandered around the house saying he was bored and hungry. (Can relate.)

He helped me make my bed after I washed the sheets, and we talked for a bit. Daughter finished Just Dance and got in the shower. Son wanted to take a bath and there was a misunderstanding about when he was going to do this. I almost lost him for the rest of the afternoon but we talked and he agreed to take a bath after his sister’s shower. Daughter did band practice. Son completed a lesson for band, which is an alternate option this week to the 15 minutes of practice because we haven’t done a single band assignment since moving to online school.

Now the kids are back to video games. Phil is home–with local asparagus for dinner! Dinner will be simple and uncomplicated tonight so I’ll probably read some more before setting to work on that. A second round of thunderstorms tried to move through but mostly missed us. The sun is shining now. I’m not sure what the weather will bring tomorrow but we return to more of a schedule tomorrow. I think I need it, too.

Also, I need to stop eating all the sugar in the house. I’m not usually a sugar fiend. I mean, I like it, but if I’m going to snack I usually choose something salty or savory rather than sweet. (Unless it’s ice cream.) But it’s wrecking my body. Headaches. Lethargy. It might be other stuff that’s causing it, but I know the sugar isn’t helping.

Dinner was simple and good. We watched the new episode of Some Good News, then we played Skip-Bo as a family. We discovered that our second-hand set of cards is missing some cards, so we altered the rules a bit. Our son won. It might be his favorite game because he can win. Phil went to bed and I asked the kids to do something quiet to calm us down before bed. I wanted to finish the book I was reading, and I did.

I settled in to watch the new Outlander episode then went to bed.

Day 32: It’s morning again. I slept pretty well. I woke up before my alarm and read for a bit. Then I listened to Pray As You Go. I made coffee and sat down to take my blood pressure, a daily task that is causing me stress. The kids are playing video games. If they don’t finish Lego Star Wars by the time this pandemic is over, I’ll be surprised.

They’re making their own breakfast right now, which is good but now I have to wait because too much activity in the kitchen first thing in the morning is hard for me to handle. Maybe I’ll wander in and get coffee. I took my blood pressure twice and it’s high. I’m not sure if I’m going to wait the full two weeks to send my doctor the numbers. When my blood pressure starts to rise, I panic and want to go back on the meds. It hasn’t even been a week since my telehealth appointment with her. Ugh. I hate medical issues and everything feels more complicated now than it needs to be. If I go back on the meds, it will be at a lower dose, which means a new prescription, and I definitely don’t want to go to the pharmacy. Phil has been running all of our errands to limit our exposure. I think maybe I can have it delivered, though, too.

My breakfast is in progress. The kids are doing well making their own. They’ll be back to the video game with the knowledge that our educational schedule begins again at 8 this morning. I had been in the habit of writing cards and letters to friends and putting them in the mail before the mail came. The mail has been coming by 9 a.m. most days.

We looked at the educational requirements for the day and both kids set to work on their assignments. I washed dishes and listened to Office Ladies. Helped the kids with a few of their questions. Folded laundry. I started another book for judging. Daughter went outside to get the mail. My coffee arrived. This is the second best kind of mail. Books is the first. I ran out of coffee after this morning’s pot, so I’m glad the timing worked out. I’m spending more money on coffee right now, but I’m supporting my favorite local coffee shop, so I’m going to feel good about it.

Son had his class meeting. Daughter had a scavenger hunt. Both of these things nearly brought me to tears. During my son’s meeting, his school counselor was there talking to the kids about their feelings and ways to stay positive. Meanwhile, my daughter raced around the house to find the objects. I’m just so moved by how educators keep showing up for their kids. I get it. And I’m just grateful because I know they’re dealing with emotions and feelings of their own. I took a call from the chiropractor’s office, cancelling both my next adjustment and next massage. They’re only open for pain management. I’m feeling okay, so I’m going to hold off until May before going back in.

I read while the kids finished their meetings. Now, we’re lunching and watching Nick games on TV. Second round of meetings at noon. I love listening to my son participate in his school lessons. That is an unexpected benefit of having school at home–being able to be more involved in his learning, even if it’s just in the observation phase. I kept reading. Daughter went back to academics, but the TV was still on so I’m not sure how effective this method is.

It’s a kid’s jump rope; ask me if I care.

Toward one o’clock, I wanted to get my workout in and my son hadn’t eaten lunch yet, so we talked through his options. I made him a grilled cheese and he gathered some other lunch items. Then I got myself ready to work out. It’s a beautiful sunny day outside, perfectly spring. Cool but not cold. Today it was some weight and cardio intervals. It’s the first time I was able to do two different sets. The first set, I walked and ran for the cardio option but for the second set, I needed to choose a different cardio option. I decided to trying jumping rope, and I am here to tell you that I JUMPED THAT ROPE LIKE A PRO. My legs are going to be jelly tomorrow, but I did three 2-minute sets of jumping rope and for the third set, I went all-out and jumped more than 200 times in a row. Yes. That is correct.

This is a big deal because I forget what my body can do and I don’t often challenge it beyond what I know I can do.

After my workout, I got ready to take a shower. My son wanted to know if we could make a trail mix sometime so I found him a recipe and helped him gather the ingredients. He made his own trail mix, and I think he’s pretty proud of himself.

Not sure what the rest of the afternoon holds. I want us to get outside but the kids are glued to the TV.

I ended up clearing some photos off of my phone, then I started working on dinner around 4 o’clock while listening to Andrew Peterson read from the book. Phil brought home some overripe bananas to freeze for smoothies, and lettuce which made a nice side to our pasta dish. We watched some random stuff on YouTube–faux sports is what it is–and really we’re just missing everything sports related right now.

We kind of just hung out in the living room. Our daughter worked on some cards/letters to send. Son played his new Star Wars game on the tablet. I read. Phil had an old F1 race playing on the TV. We watched a short TikTok video some of the teachers from the kids’ school put together. Then it was bedtime for the kiddos.

Phil and I shared a beer and watched Brooklyn-99 followed by a couple of episodes of The Office.

Day 33: Another good night of sleep. It does make a difference. I woke up thinking about my students and all the things I still want to say to them. I noticed that our stimulus money came in today, as did an unemployment payment. This is rainy day money for us right now, I feel like. Our biggest bills come toward the end/beginning of the month, so tucking it away for the days when we come up short feels like the plan. 

I took my blood pressure first thing so I could message my doctor about the readings. She wanted them after two weeks, but it’s been trending upwards so I don’t want to wait another week. I feel better having sent that message because it’s action. I don’t like the feeling of things happening to me that I can’t do anything about. (Isn’t that how we feel about this whole time?)

Phil and our daughter are working out first thing. Son is playing his game. I had breakfast and I’m going to get ready for the day. We have a full day of school and video calls ahead of us, as well as the usual stuff of life. We met at 8. My son had finished his academic work pretty quickly yesterday, so he wasn’t sure he wanted to start that right away. We explored the page for specials and he checked off a few things on library BINGO. Then he folded his laundry. I washed dishes and listened to Office Ladies. Then my son was ready to start on his academic work, so I helped him get set up.

I worked on my snacks for today: I hard-boiled two eggs and made some hummus. I forgot I had the ingredients for homemade hummus and that’s a good and filling afternoon snack for me. I read a little bit and helped my son more with his school work. I’m in the tech support role mostly right now. He finished before his class meeting, so he played his game a little. Our daughter had been working on academics for most of the morning and then she decided to do some sewing.

Feeling fabulous after my longest run since August.

My son’s class meeting started at 10 and I got ready to go for a run. I wanted to get it in this morning so I can spend some time writing this afternoon. I left not long after his meeting started. It’s a cool sunny day. I layered up and decided to run for another 30 minutes, with no distance in mind. I didn’t think I would go too far or too fast because of all the jumping rope yesterday. I went to the park and there were quite a few people. I always wear my Buff so I can put it over my mouth and nose if necessary. Only one other person in the park was wearing a mask and I had to adjust my route a couple of times to avoid people. When the 30 minutes was up, I had gone 2.35 miles. That’s my farthest distance yet in my post-surgery training. And I didn’t feel winded or exhausted. So, next time, I’m going for distance. 2.5 miles, no matter how long it takes.

I saw a bluebird in a field. It’s the kind of bird I don’t see too often when out and about. And I noticed a helicopter hovering over the river/country club. Strange days.

My son greeted me as soon as I was home and asked me to help him make mac and cheese for lunch. I did, and I prepared a salad for myself. The kids and Phil are watching ESPN’s Horse Challenge. It’s pretty interesting what we can come up with for entertainment when our usual outlets aren’t available.

I took a shower while our son had his math meeting. At 1 we had a Skype date with our friends in Kenya. It was an encouraging and uplifting conversation, and I’m always interested to hear what life is like in other parts of the world, especially parts I’ve been to. We chatted for more than an hour about all things pandemic, Kenya, and food. Our assignment for them before they come home again is to find a Moroccan restaurant. I’m pretty sure we have one in the city.

We tuned in to the state news conference and then our friend David called and we talked to him for a while. Now, I’m settled in at the table trying to write while Phil and our daughter vacuum the living room. I’m not actually sure what my son is doing. There was some discord and our son was escorted to his room. The other two did a thorough vacuuming of the living room, moving furniture to get under the couches.

I had a productive stretch of writing time, and I went in to talk to our son because he’d been acting in a way that signaled to me he needed some attention. We talked a little bit, and I went back to writing. Phil started on dinner. Our son came out to the living room to move around some. Even though it was nice outside today, I couldn’t get him to go outside. He wants to play in the back parking lot but that business is still open, so he can’t. He eventually took a shower as we had asked.

As Phil worked on dinner, the three of us chilled in the living room. My goal was to finish another book for judging, and I was getting close. We had dinner and watched the rest of the quarterfinals of the Horse tournament on ESPN. Professional basketball players battling each other in a game of HORSE from their homes all across the country is a fun way to engage sports fans. After dinner, Phil went for a walk to break in his new shoes. My son asked for snuggles on the couch. I’m wondering if this is what he needed earlier but couldn’t ask for it.

Bedtime, finally. Phil and I watched the third of four comedy specials from James Acaster on Netflix. Laughter is good medicine.

Day 34: I was up at 5 a.m. to use the bathroom and I heard my son pop out of bed and tell his sister it was time to get up. I think he thought it was 6 a.m., so I poked my head in their room and said, “No. It’s only 5. Go back to sleep.” And they did. No one got out of bed till almost 7 a.m. today. My alarm went off at 6:15 and I picked up my phone to scroll socials. It’s not a healthy habit first thing in the morning. Sometimes I think I’ll have missed something. I listened to Pray As You Go.

Yesterday, my doctor got back to me and said I could go back on the BP meds at a lower dose. I cut some of the pills I have in half until one of us can go to the pharmacy to pick up my prescription. I’m both curious about the outside world and not at all interested in leaving the house until it’s “safe.” Honestly, this is a normal battle for me when my social anxiety is flaring. In some ways, being told to stay home and not go anywhere is good for my anxiety. If the rest of the world wasn’t on fire, I might not have any anxiety at all! (Attempt at humor; probably failed.)

Breakfast and coffee, as usual. I paid a couple of bills and managed our money a bit. The day and its workload will be on us soon.

I haven’t been to the computer to write all day. We kept busy with a lot of stuff. My son and I worked on the dishes first thing after our meeting. He dried some of them. We had a little talk about his school work, some of which has corrections. I wanted him to know that it’s not a bad thing to need to elaborate or make a correction. Fortunately, his teacher addressed this during their morning meeting. He got to work on his school work while Phil and our daughter worked out. There was some crankiness on my end this morning feeling like so many things were being asked of me all at the same time.

I spent a lot of the day reading for my judging job. Phil did some work around the house. Our daughter had a meeting at 11, so after my son’s class meeting, it was lunch time. We made mac and cheese, the crowd favorite. It wasn’t long before Phil had to leave for work. Since lunch was staggered, by the time my son had his next small group meeting, my daughter was ready for lunch.

I took my blood pressure around noon just to see how the half pills are working. It’s gone down from a couple of days ago but is still in the borderline range. I asked Phil to pick up my new meds on his way home from work.

The day is kind of a blur as I look back on it. I started some laundry. I printed some pages for my next week of nutrition and training and scanned a photo for my daughter. I worked on the shopping list for this weekend and planned some meals for the week ahead. The kids had a band meeting, which I said could count for practice today. I washed some more dishes, and I made dinner. We had lasagna with some fresh noodles Phil brought home from market last week. (So, they aren’t fresh, but they are homemade, not store bought and I haven’t made a lasagna in a long time.) We watched LegoMasters: The Finale. What a fun series that has been. It has not sparked a ton of creativity in our house, but I haven’t suggested it, either. Maybe we could have a LegoMasters competition of our own.

The kids decided to go outside after dinner and ride bikes in the back parking lot. It’s chilly but they needed the fresh air. I need it, too, but today is a rest day in my program. Stretching and water consumption are the orders of the day for me. Now they’re playing Lego Star Wars on the Wii. They haven’t spent much time with each other today.

I did some leisure reading while they played outside, and Phil opened his quarantine splurge–a new radio that also plays cassettes. He saw it on the Tiny Desk Concert featuring The Lumineers. He spent his Christmas money, so don’t worry, we’re not recklessly spending our stimulus money. (Sorry. I saw some things online today about how people are spending their government money. I get a little worked up about people judging other people’s money decisions.)

We’re on the downhill slide of another day, another week. Tomorrow is Friday already again. The days both drag and fly right now.

Day 35: It’s almost 6 o’clock and I’m just now logging words for the day. I don’t know if this is progress or not, that I don’t feel the need to hourly or regularly record all of our doings. It’s becoming more of a reflection on the day than a rundown. We’ve had dinner and are watching ESPN’s HORSE tournament semi-finals. Who would ever believe this is what’s “on” for sports right now? It is oddly satisfying to watch professional basketball players participate in a game that is played on home courts everywhere.

We got a late start on school this morning. This whole week has been a little tough to stay on task. Our son has a presentation to create and he’s a little bit intimidated by the amount of work it requires. I’m not sure it requires as much as he thinks, so we’re just trying to take it a piece at a time. I folded some laundry while they got started on a few assignments. As I was starting dishes, the kids asked for help. While our son was on his morning meeting, I helped my daughter with areas of composite polygons. Again, if you had told me that I would be using those combinations of words, I would have not believed you. We mostly figured it out.

My son won his class’s Boggle game via Zoom. We gathered our lunch materials and talked to my mom on the phone for a bit. The kids researched some online gifts they would like to receive during this time. I read some from the next book I’m judging. My son had another class to check in to, and it got a little wild. The kids got a little unmotivated to do more school work after that. We received our Target package and the mail, which also included two books I’ve been looking forward to reading. 

I suited up to do my workout. It’s chilly today but it’s snowing in our hometown, so things could always be worse.

I had a really great workout. I felt strong during my intervals and then I did a cardio finisher of more jumping rope. I might have a new second favorite activity. I made a smoothie and changed my clothes. The kids played video games. I made cole slaw to go with dinner and then I decided to try to finish the novel I’ve been reading Olive, Again. The kids went outside to play for a bit, then tired of that and started a load of laundry before watching YouTube. I talked to our friend David a little bit, then finished the book.

Phil got home from work and I put away all the vegetables and processed the strawberries to go with dinner. I finished cooking dinner. Which brings us back to the HORSE competition. We watched it to the end. Then Phil decided to play with his new toy while making his sandwich for tomorrow. So, while the kids and Phil listened to ’90s era cassettes in the kitchen, I showered.

Happy little trees are in my future

The radio with cassette player was Phil’s impulse quarantine purchase. Mine was a Bob Ross coloring book. I’m not big on shopping, but there are some things that I can’t resist when I’m in need of some comfort. I’ve been coloring more lately, and I wanted a new book.

Putting the kids to bed was kind of an ordeal. They were a little too hyped. So, once they were settled, I scooped some ice cream and went to the couch. I watched two episodes of The West Wing while eating ice cream and doing my nails. They’ve been bare for a week or more and I like having them polished.

I miss baseball.

Sleep, blessed sleep.

Filed Under: social distancing Tagged With: life during a pandemic, parenting in a pandemic

The Distancing Diaries: Days 26-30

April 13, 2020

Thirty days. Hard to believe it’s been a full month of a new way of life. I’m grateful for you who are reading along about the often mundane ways we are spending our days.

Day 26: The closer this number gets to 30, the sadder I get, but we’ve been at this long enough that it’s the new normal.

Sleep was interesting last night. About 1 a.m. a thunderstorm rolled through which meant our daughter woke up right away and came to our room. She is now a full-sized human wanting to share our bed when she’s scared, and our bed is not that big. We squeezed in and slept fitfully for the next several hours. I had a knot in my neck from hugging the edge of the bed so tightly. At some point in the night, Phil went to the couch so she and I had more room. Our son slept through the whole thing. I don’t remember my alarm going off, so if it did, I’m sure I turned it off. It was almost 7 before I got out of bed. Phil and our son were up in the living room. The girl is still sleeping.

It was well after 7 before everyone was up and getting breakfast. We aimed for 8 for our educational meeting, but it was a little after. We had our plan for the day and the kids went outside to play. I changed into workout clothes and went for a run. Today’s was the longest amount of time yet–30 minutes, but I took it at easy pace so I only covered a little more than 2 miles. Still, I ran continuously for 30 minutes and I wasn’t winded or exhausted when I finished. There will be other days to give it all I’ve got.

Phil was working on sorting through books on our bookshelves when I left, and that project took him most of the morning. Then, we decided to rearrange most of the shelves in the house, which took us a good portion of the afternoon.

It doesn’t look like much on the outside, but this is four months of work for me.

Books was the theme of the day. Before we started working on the bookshelves my box of books for contest judging arrived. This is overwhelming and exciting. It’s work for the next four months, which is good for all sorts of reasons. So, I spent a little time going through the box and double checking the packing list to get myself organized for reading and judging all these books. (It’s one of my favorite things, which probably makes me sound like a horrible person.)

The bookshelves are in a better order, and we cleared one entire shelf for library books so they don’t become scattered all over the house or end up in a pile on the floor. Once we can go to the library again, I will love this system.

Now, I’m waiting on my doctor’s office to call for a telehealth appointment. This is a check-up for my blood pressure medication, and even though I’m not leaving my house, I’m still a little nervous. White coat syndrome even without seeing the white coat!

It was no big deal. I’m going to try going off my blood pressure medication again and see what the readings are for a couple of weeks. If I still need it, the dose can be lowered one more time.

I did some reading and helped figure out dinner. We decided to grill and make potato salad. Collaborative cooking is one of the things I love best about our relationship. Our daughter usually joins in. Tonight, Phil let her get the grill ready and put the meat on (with supervision). I finished reading book 2 of The Wingfeather Saga before dinner. We ate and watched America’s Test Kitchen. I took a shower and got a file organized for my book judging job. It’s a bit of a quiet evening for us. I’m feeling the effects of the restless sleep from last night. I predict an early bedtime all around tonight.

Day 27: It was one episode of The Office and then bedtime for me. I slept more soundly than I have in days but I dreamt a lot. Mostly about school. Co-workers, students, assignments. I can’t believe how much I miss being overworked and underpaid.

Alarm went off at 6:15. I listened to Pray As You Go, especially since it’s Maundy Thursday. I need a bit of anchoring. This weekend is Easter but it will probably be the least Easter-y feeling Easter ever. That doesn’t mean it’s not still special or important. Just different.

Then I stayed in bed scrolling Twitter and Instagram until after 7 o’clock. The boy was up already. The girl was not. But it wasn’t long before everyone was awake and eating breakfast. This is the last “school” day for the kids until Tuesday. I think that will be a nice break. 

The boy and I worked on dishes while Phil and our daughter worked out. The kids then worked on academics for a little while. That weekend feeling is strong even though we have no weekend-y plans. I got in some good reading time for the contest judging. In the middle of our son’s class meeting, our governor made the decision to close all Pennsylvania schools for the rest of the school year. I left the table to go see it for myself and cried in the bedroom. No goodbyes for my students. No collaboration with my co-workers. No closure for the school year. Everything I left at school is just there. I don’t have anything valuable or super important but it’s a weird feeling to not have it all wrapped up.

I tried to think about lunch but grief of all kinds is powerful. I mostly just ate whatever I could see, which is never good but sometimes necessary. We got through lunch. The kids had a little bit of extra screen time after Phil left for work. I told them that TV doesn’t count because it’s not individual face-in-a-screen. A storm moved through dropping sheets of rain and rushing wind. It adds to the stress a little to hear the wind blowing outside. Can’t something just be calm if the rest of the world is chaos? Apparently not.

I read some more and made a list of things to bake this weekend (more stress baking, yay!) and the kids did a little bit more academics and band and chore time to round out their day. Early in the week I had set out times for myself to write and I have yet to keep any of those appointments. So, I worked on a client project for close to an hour. I’m not doing my best work right now, but just doing some work is helpful.

Now it’s 3 o’clock and the kids are watching screens and I’m listening to the wind howl outside. I’m not going to start dinner prep yet, and I might just keep eating. We have a lot of knock-off Oreos in the house. Find comfort where you can, friends.

I went back to reading until Phil got home. We talked for a bit and I got some dinner things out and started. It was a pasta kind of night and we ate while watching the latest episode of LegoMasters. The rest of the family asked what I was interested in watching and I just couldn’t take another food show right now. After dinner, we encouraged the kids to get showers. Phil and I made the produce list for the week and looked up a recipe for the curry we want to make for Easter dinner. Once one child got in the shower, we called to talk to a friend who needed some encouragement and reminding to stay home during this pandemic. We offered to get what he needed from the store if necessary, and we promised to celebrate his birthday when this is all over, no matter the date.

The disappointments run deep for everyone for different reasons. It’s hard to believe that a month ago we couldn’t envision what our lives would be like. I won’t tell you that I’m hopeful, confident or unafraid. Sometimes I feel those things but mostly I feel uncertain, like hoping might be too much effort. Fear is a powerful force and it takes a powerful force to fight it. Sometimes I’m not sure I have it in me.

Collectively, though, I believe we have it in us. But we need each other like never before. We need to borrow hope from one another and we need to value each other enough to stay away for now. I think about the immense burden our leaders are bearing. Our governor has to make these difficult decisions while watching the numbers climb daily and there doesn’t seem to be anything that can stop it. We’re used to sending armies to defeat our enemies, but this battle requires that we go nowhere. Staying put feels like giving up. At least it does to me. I’m not a person of inaction, but there are ways to fight fear and hopelessness without leaving your home. It’s hard but not impossible.

I’m preaching to myself tonight. I barely believe the words I’m writing, but I believe that words have power and can change the world. I’ll keep using them as long as I’m able.

I’m sad tonight. Maybe that’s not all bad. I don’t want to get to the point in this whole thing where I’m closed off to all feelings. I want to feel, even when it hurts, because it means I’m still here. If you’re reading this, then you’re still here, too. Don’t give up, friend. We need you in this fight.

Day 28: Four weeks. Sleep was good last night. It’s a Friday that feels like a Saturday, a normal one anyway because there’s no “school” and Phil is at work. I keep forgetting it’s Friday. I listened to Pray As You Go because it’s Good Friday. Easter weekend. And it’s going to look so different than usual. No family gathered. No church celebration.

The kids are watching shows on TV and it makes me think of all the Saturday mornings I woke up and turned on the TV to whatever was on. We’re working on breakfast. I have a long list of baking things I want to do this weekend, some for Easter, some just because. And I’m planning to set aside some writing time today. Work feels good and is good.

We met briefly at 8 o’clock to lay out what we had to do today. I find it helpful if I tell the kids my intentions for the day as well so they don’t assume I have nothing to do. The kids folded towels and watched TV while I got started on work. Then they moved on to another cleaning project. I worked for about 90 minutes in total. I had a couple of meals/snacks to prep for the weekend, so I went to the kitchen and listened to an Office Ladies podcast while I washed dishes. Then I made an overnight oats recipe.

When the podcast episode was finished, I went looking for Andrew Peterson’s read aloud of The Wingfeather Saga book 1 and started listening to that while I made a brownie recipe from my nutrition/fitness program. The kids came into the kitchen and realized it was almost time for lunch. They had surprised themselves by how much they’d worked. They started getting lunch ready, with some help, and our daughter went out to get the mail. There was another small package from the grandparents that they tore into. It included some of those capsules that you put into warm water and they turn into something else. They were fascinated.

I finished the brownies while I ate lunch and listened to the first night of the reading. I washed another round of dishes because I want the kitchen to be cleanish for later baking and cooking projects. I started the second night of readings while I folded a load of laundry and ate a little more lunch. I want to work out in a little while, but it’s really windy outside and I’m not sure I’m going to enjoy it. Maybe I don’t always have to enjoy it. It’s a Friday that feels like a Saturday because there’s no school meetings or homework today and no one at the business behind our house. As if life was not disorienting enough!

I finished the second night of Wingfeather read-aloud. Time to get ready to work out.

It’s so windy outside. I didn’t want to go outside, but today’s workout is intervals and I haven’t yet found a cardio option I want to do inside for 2 minutes that compares to walking and running. So, I braved the elements. I was feeling really tired when I started but the fresh air and the biting wind woke me up pretty quickly. For those few minutes outside, I felt alive again. This is the fight I have on days when there’s not much to get me moving and out of bed. Sometimes just doing the next thing is the right thing.

I made a smoothie when I finished. I think I’ll spend some time reading this afternoon.

I did that while the kids watched YouTube and cleaned out a bin I asked them to sort through. I asked the kids to stop watching YouTube and they decided to play video games together. I put the clean dishes away while listening to more of Andrew Peterson read from On The Edge of the Dark Sea of Darkness. I started some dinner prep, realizing almost too late that I needed more time to bake the sweet potatoes.

Phil came home with our vegetables, the goat meat for our Easter feast and a bunch of goodies from another stand at market: a baguette, some sweet breakfast treats and fresh pasta. I finished working on dinner. The kids took some extra time to finish the game they were playing. Phil took a shower. We ate dinner while watching a Bon Appetit video about all the ways to cook salmon. Because we were eating salmon for dinner.

The kids practiced band after dinner so they could watch more screens later. They’re still sorting through the bin, so it’s valid. I took a shower. It’s been kind of a lazy day. The kids are still wearing the pajamas they slept in last night. A day like this is okay. This is what I’m telling myself.

They went to bed around 8. I watched a bit of Netflix and worked on my cross-stitch. I had trouble falling asleep. During the day, my anxiety seems manageable, then sometimes when I lie down to sleep, it rushes to the surface.

Day 29: Holy Saturday. It’s a day often overlooked in the whole Easter weekend but especially appropriate this year. A day of waiting. Of darkness. Of uncertainty. I listened to Pray As You Go and read what the Book of Common Prayer told me to read for the Daily Office. I was struck by Psalm 88 with lines like these: 

“You have put my friends far from me.”

“Will your loving-kindness be declared in the grave? your faithfulness in the land of destruction? Will you wonders be known in the dark? or your righteousness in the country where all is forgotten?”

“My friend and my neighbor you have put away from me, and darkness is my only companion.”

Sometimes I’m surprised anew by the words I read in an ancient text that have relevance to my modern life.

The kids are playing video games. 

Friends from church left a plant on our porch sometime after we locked the house last night and woke up this morning. Phil must have found it when he left for work this morning.

It’s my brother’s birthday. We’re going to make some cupcakes to celebrate. And by “we” I mean “me” because it’s Saturday and the kids are on their own. While they finished a level of Lego Star Wars, I washed dishes and listened to Andrew Peterson read more chapters of book 1 of The Wingfeather Saga. Then I made the cupcakes. They look like muffins now that they’re out of the oven. Either I didn’t stir them enough or our oven is wonky. Either is a real possibility.

The kids are playing school now with their stuffed animals and dolls. It’s my favorite thing to watch happen because they make up real problems and assignments. I should be reading or doing something more productive than scrolling social media. I wrote a long sappy text to my brother and researched homemade masks. I still haven’t made one, but I think I’m going to try today. I drank more coffee and had a snack.

I went to the kitchen to do some reading, and not long after I had sat down, a van pulled into our driveway with people waving at us. I didn’t recognize them at first, but then our daughter’s best friend got out of the car and came toward the door. I called for my daughter and she and her friend waved at each other through the door. I asked her friend to leave what she brought on the porch and after she went back down the steps, our daughter stepped outside and said “hi” and “happy Easter” to her friend and her family. It’s so hard to watch them not be able to hug each other. Still, it was a nice surprise.

Peanut butter cupcakes with chocolate fudge frosting

The kids came into the kitchen looking for lunch, so we gathered what we needed for that. I ate a salad and listened to an Office Ladies podcast. After I finished eating, I washed some dishes so I could make the frosting for the cupcakes. Frosted, the cupcakes look better and, don’t tell anyone, but I ate one because there was one that sort of fell apart coming out of the pan. Not too bad. I read a little more and then got ready to do my workout. I missed a call from one of my grandmas because my phone was on the charger. Sounds like we’ll get to see her via video tomorrow.

Partway through my workout, our landlord showed up to mow the lawn. This had been a source of stress/worry for me. We don’t now a lawnmower. It’s part of our lease that he takes care of lawn care. The grass has been getting pretty wild, and we haven’t seen our landlord all winter (not unusual). I was beginning to wonder if we would need to borrow a lawnmower and have a “class” on mowing the lawn.

I finished my workout and made a snack. It’ll be back to the dishes for me. The kids started laundry, which was going to be next on my list, but they’re in more desperate need of it than I am. We’re having homemade pizza tonight.

It was still good.

We burnt the pizza slightly, which was almost a problem for our son, but everyone ate it and was happy. We had the cupcakes for dessert. During dinner we watched Sight and Sound’s production of Jesus that was available to stream for free on the TBN app. It was so beautiful. I cried multiple times. I even got to snuggle with my son a bit. He’s not always into snuggles, but I could tell by his mood that he needed some attention and wasn’t able to ask for it.

Phil and I watched a couple of episodes of The Office as we filled the Easter baskets. The kids saw the candy earlier in the week when Phil got back from the grocery store and maybe we have them convinced the bunny still brought the candy. I don’t know. Both our kids still believe in all the things: Santa, tooth fairy, Easter bunny. I won’t lie: if it was all ruined during a pandemic, I wouldn’t be sorry.

I went to bed and read for a while.

Day 30: Let’s sit with that number for a moment. Thirty. Days. In some ways, it’s all normal and in a lot of other ways, it’s not normal at all.

I woke up and decided to go for a run. Easter sunrise service is one of my favorite things, but we haven’t participated in one for years. Under normal circumstances, we would have gone to one this morning, but it was canceled, of course. An early morning run is almost like a sunrise service for me.

It took me a little while to get ready, but I headed out around 7:30, intending to run for 30 minutes, and that’s what I did. It was cool and sunny and peaceful and I ran almost as far as I did last Sunday, at a slower pace, but honestly I’m just interested in getting it done, not getting it done fast.

When I got home, Phil was eating sunny side up eggs over sweet potatoes and offered to make me some. I made coffee, stretched, drank water and had some of the raspberry bread he brought home earlier in the week. We saved it for Easter morning, and it was delicious. My eggs were perfectly cooked, and I feel so loved. Breakfast is my love language.

I took a shower and Phil dug out his Easter outfit for online church–the suit he wore for our wedding. It’s pink from top to bottom, and it fits him loosely so it was almost comical to see him wearing it. He found an unopened package of McDonald’s cookies in the breast pocket. Because on our way from the church to the reception venue, our brother-in-law drove us through the McDonald’s drive-through. Thirteen-year-old expired cookies is a fun find.

As we readied ourselves–with communion elements–for online church, I told Phil I’d marry him again, especially knowing we would get to this point of our marriage. A place that’s mostly calm and good. There have been other seasons of our marriage where I’m not sure I would have said that I would do it all over again.

Online church was encouraging. We got to sing together and experience the sermon all at the same time. We took communion collectively though separate. And we had a good sermon discussion time afterward.

We have a full afternoon of food prep ahead of us, plus some online calls with family. 

It’s night now. Bedtime was rough. The day is catching up with me. I’m irritable and cranky, and I’m afraid it’s my medication, or lack thereof. This may not be the best time to go off my blood pressure medication, but I can’t seem to say that to my doctor when she suggests it. We’ll try again tomorrow.

Our Easter dinner was African-inspired: goat curry, chapatis (flatbread), Formosan fried cabbage and samosas.

The kids set the table. It’s the first time we’ve eaten at the table in a month.

We had cheesecake for dessert. And took a walk between dinner and dessert. The kids rode their scooters and the sounds of joy as they coasted down the hill are some of my favorite things in the world right now.

So much food. Then we watched both episodes of John Krasinski’s Some Good News because I hadn’t shared those with the family yet.

We had a good time right up until bedtime and then it all went south. I hate how everything seems to turn on a dime. Like, there’s no warning that one of us is about to blow up. We’re holding too much inside, and I don’t know how to let it out in a healthy and productive way. Maybe that’s too much to ask.

A good night of sleep makes everything better, or at least more manageable.

Filed Under: social distancing, Uncategorized Tagged With: Easter, life during a pandemic, social distancing

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