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A guide through the messy work of discovering: Review of Out of Sorts by Sarah Bessey

November 6, 2015

“Sorting” is not a word we the people of the United States use very often and certainly not in the British way. But it’s a perfectly apt description of the process of discovering and re-discovering what I believe and why. And Sarah Bessey guides us through this messy work in her new book Out of Sorts.

It is a record of her own faith journey and a guidebook, in a way, of the path through a process that can be disorienting.

Like all good stories, it begins with a familiar phrase:

beautifully sorted out

And while there’s no tidy ending (because all of our journeys are unique), it’s not a story devoid of “happily ever after.”

The sorting of a person’s beliefs can be a beautiful thing. But it’s not necessarily easy.Out of Sorts cover

Out of Sorts doesn’t offer a how-to approach to finding your once-and-for-all set of beliefs. But it offers encouragement to question, to remember, to grieve losses and hurts, to look back on your life and church experiences and theology and determine what stays and what goes. Bessey’s book is like a friend who sits with us as we sort, but who can’t make the decisions for us. Those are for us alone. She offers her own experiences, her own work of finding a fresh look at Jesus in the Gospels, of discovering ancient practices she’d not been exposed to in her charismatic upbringing.

“Lean into your questions and your doubts until you find that God is out here in the wilderness too. I have good news for you, brokenhearted one: God is here in the wandering.”

It’s the kind of book I want to re-read to soak up the richness. Like a guidebook to a favorite vacation destination, I want to consult it again and again until the landscape is as familiar to me as my own neighborhood.

“You may sit by the trail and cry over the poisonous, lovely things being left behind. You’ll wonder why you’re still holding on this thing or that thing. You’ll find that some things you were ready to toss have become dear, so precious, that you’ll carry them in your lap to keep them safe.”

Encouraging, prophetic and challenging. A must-read if the faith tradition in which you were raised seems in conflict with the faith tradition you have now.

Filed Under: faith & spirituality, Non-fiction, The Weekly Read Tagged With: doubts, evolving faith, faith journeys, howard books, out of sorts, questions, sarah bessey, spiritual memoir

When following Jesus doesn’t mean what I think it means {a synchroblog post}

November 5, 2015

Follow Jesus, they said. It’ll make your life better, they said.

Okay, maybe nobody said that. Maybe that’s just what I heard.

Except that what I first heard was from Jesus.

“Come,” He said. “Just as you are,” He said.

So I did. I jumped right in and felt the love of a God who required nothing of me.

Except that I soon learned that God did require things. Things like:

Obedience, which I translated into Always Doing the Thing I Didn’t Want To Do.

Holiness, which I translated into Never Doing a Wrong Thing Ever Again.

Trust, which I translated into Never Worrying About Anything in My Life Ever Again (or at least Not Telling Anyone If I Do Worry).

Faith, which I translated into Always Having the Right Answer Even If I’m Not Sure Myself  What the Answer Is (also Never Having Doubts or Questions About What I  Believe).

And then Something happened. A Something so big that it requires a capital letter.

These things that I thought about following Jesus didn’t ensure a good life. In fact, life got the worst it possibly could get and I wondered what I did wrong. I thought I was following Jesus. Wasn’t my faith supposed to be a shield from these kinds of difficulties? Didn’t these sorts of things only happen to people who didn’t have Jesus in their lives?

The big Something was more than five years ago now, but I’m still asking those questions. And the things I thought I knew about following Jesus are less certain now. It’s like I had a jar full of faith trinkets and someone dumped it out and scattered the contents all over the house and now I’m still picking up the pieces and deciding what to put back in the jar. (Or if I even need the jar at all.)

I’m sorting it out, as Sarah Bessey calls it in her new book Out of Sorts (review of the book is in a separate post). I’m wrestling with questions I didn’t think to have all those years ago, and while I sometimes want to discard my early years of following Jesus all together, I know that some of those beliefs and actions are valuable, even if just as reminders of where I was at the time. We don’t have to junk family heirlooms simply because they’re old.

But some of those former ways are damaged and it’s time to toss them.

I wish I could tell you for sure what I believe about following Jesus today. Or what it will look tomorrow or five years from now. It’s ever-changing, and that’s okay, because my life is ever changing. Just because God is not changing doesn’t mean my understanding of Him won’t change.

Out of Sorts theology

Even writing those words feels sinful sometimes. Am I supposed to change what I believe about God and living out my faith?

[bctt tweet=”But what I was supposed to do never saved me and it never will.”]

If I’ve learned anything about following Jesus it’s that it’s all about following Him. Shocking, right? I’m no longer interested in following a set of rules if it means I lose Jesus in the process. I’m no longer certain that there’s only one way to follow Him, only one way to be a Christian. To be honest, there are a whole lot more things I don’t know than I do know. Maybe I’ve lost my religion, a la R.E.M., or maybe not.

What I do know is this: I haven’t lost Jesus.

And I’m still sorting it out.

That used to terrify me, the unraveling of my faith, the questions about what I believe.

Now, though, I welcome it.

The questions don’t scare me anymore. Most of the time, they make my faith stronger.

Following Jesus doesn’t mean what I thought it meant. And that’s more than okay.

To celebrate the launch of her new book, Sarah Bessey is hosting a syncroblog on the topic of “I used to think ____ but now I think____.” Head over to Sarah’s blog to join the conversation.

How has what you believe changed over time?

Filed Under: faith & spirituality Tagged With: following jesus, out of sorts book, sarah bessey, shifting theology, what I used to believe

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